Should Married Women Wear Sexy Clothes?


Some husbands/boyfriends like their wives/girlfriends to wear sexy clothes and some don’t. Some say sexy clothes should be reserved for young singles. If I am over 50 and in good shape, can I still be sexy and if so, what should I wear? What do you think?

“Figure appropriate” sounds sensible to me. Cher has attained an age that for many women, many styles might look out of place. But she has a figure that allows for quite a bit of latitude.

“Fashion” and “appropriateness” is very much a result of environment, local mindsets, and religion. There were (and probably still are!) times and places where the sight of a woman’s bare ankle was scandalous; far beyond ‘sexy’.

The original question was ‘am I allowed to dress sexy if over 50; and what is appropriate?’ I think ‘sexy’ is a state of being, more than a particular item of clothing or amount of skin on display. I’m over 50, and plus sized, and I do would NOT feel sexy in a bikini. Or look sexy – but there ARE men (and women) in the world that would disagree with that! However, I do feel sexy and drop dead feminine when I wear a skirt and blouse, and a corset underneath, hose, and shoes with a heel (not a staggeringly high heel anymore though). Some clothes ( a suit, for instance) do not make me feel ‘sexy’. But clothes that fit me correctly, that flow and feel sensual against my body can make me feel very ‘sexy’.

So. First define ‘sexy’. Then work out what makes YOU feel sexy. And if you’d like, find out what your partner thinks looks sexy on you, and wear it if you are good with that.

However, if you want to wear fish nets and a shelf bra, I suspect in the United States you’d get some pretty intense whispering behind hands about that. But if you don’t care (and good for you if you don’t!) and it makes you feel sexy, go for it. As soon as you’re out of sight, the critics will find someone else to whisper about.

Oh… and what in the world would being married have to do with it? Except if your partner has issues with you looking ‘sexy’ in public, or just issues with what you wear, and that’s really a whole different topic.

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